Lead yourself or someone else will

Thank you friends for your response to the previous blog. Today’s blog is an extension of the previous one but we will approach the same thought from an opposite perspective. If we are not aware of our own worth, the question is how worthy will WE be for anyone else !!! How will we ever convey or transfer that worth to someone else!! If we are not useful to someone somewhere, that itself should make us think more on creating worth, creating value for others. For this reason alone, we have to have a good idea as to what we are worth. This worth however is nothing to do with what others think you are worth….they will see your worth from their perspective, from what they need and from their own experience. Their opinions will be driven by their own understanding of themselves and you…and unfortunately if some of them think you are worthless…does that mean …you are???

This is not about being isolated and creating your own ivory tower and you living on top of it. It is simply a Reality Check on us and that too for our own sake, not for someone else to say we are worthy. There may be times that we really are not worthy to someone because they do not need us….does that reduce my worth…no it doesn’t. This World looks for value in any form, that’s the rule of nature. We live and survive on each other’s value. No one is born to ‘do’ nothing and ‘be’ nothing. We feel a sense of nothingness and worthlessness only when we COMPARE our WORTH to someone else’s visible worth. That’s where the problem arises. YOU are you, not someone else. You have your own typical genes, typical upbringing, typical thoughts and typical way of working. How on earth can you COMPARE yourself to anyone else. On top of that, rest of the people certainly matter BUT DO THEY KNOW YOU MORE THAN YOURSELF!!! Can they tell you more about YOU that you yourself KNOW!!! This is the way we live…by what others say of us…and literally many of us are LED by what others think rather than what we think of ourselves. If simply go by statistics…the few hundred odd people around each of us will all have their views…Can WE EVER satisfy each and still live in PEACE!! Would it not be ideal if WE sat back with OURSELVES and asked OURSELVES this question…Tell yourself YOU are worthy and then JOT down what you are worth to anyone around you…It may look insignificant to you but be a bit self consuming for this exercise and honestly accept the GOOD things about you, the GOOD that you can do to others…the smallest HAPPINESS, CONVENIENCE,VALUE, COMFORT you can create for someone else…You will KNOW your worth only then. For once you need to be GOOD to yourself J

The benchmarks of success in our society make us feel worthless because many of us may not be able to match up to them….Unfortunately, that’s the only thing WE know about success….The truth is however is different…Success begins in the head and is then translated into reality. Success comes from the worth you create for others. The worth you create for others has to be first created in YOU….THAT IS WHY YOU NEED TO FEEL WORTHY AND KNOW WHAT YOU ARE WORTH. If we are not feeling it in the head, how will we ever be able to bring it to reality. If today, some of you feel not worthy enough…Start creating that WORTH today…it’s never too late…first for yourself and then pass it on to others.

We need to LEAD our own VALUE SYSTEM, our own WORTH GRAPH. When I say lead yourself…it has two meanings, the first…you are the LEADER of your life ( the noun) and second …you LEAD you life based on the value system you create for yourself ( the actual living…the verb) There will obviously be points of view and differences of opinion when others look at you and what you are worth. These are not to tell you that you are not worthy, these are GUIDELINES to tell you how you can IMPROVE your worth….these are not to push you down under but for you to pull up yourself in your own private space and see how to increase your WORTH…Remember , either YOU LEAD YOURSELF or SOMEONE ELSE WILL….You CHOOSE!!!!